Weddings




  • When meeting with your stationer, keep in mind that different types of stock require varying amounts of time to obtain. Clarify how long your order will take to be filled.
  • Finalize your guest list before ordering so you will know how many units you need.
  • Double-check all spellings, dates, and addresses on your order. It is always wise to get someone new to review the material before you go to print.
  • Order 25-50 more invitations than you think you will need, as well as extra envelopes in case of addressing errors.
  • Take a completed, stuffed invitation to the post office for weighing in advance, to find out the exact postage.
  • It is considered a thoughtful gesture to stamp the reply card envelopes.
  • It is helpful to print all guests’ return addresses on labels and affix them individually to the reply cards as an easy method of confirming whose response it is, just in case the handwriting is impossible to decipher. Another efficient way of ensuring that you know who the sender is, is to write on the back of each reply card or envelope a shorthand coding unique to each guest.
  • Invitations should be mailed four to six weeks in advance. Remember to add extra time for international mail.





  • A separate invitation should be sent to every adult couple and single person on the list, including every family member over the age of eighteen still living at home. The expression “and family” should not be used. Children under the age of eighteen are only mentioned by name on the inside envelope; if there is no inside envelope, then by name on the outside.
  • The word “and “ is spelled out.
  • Only use abbreviations for Mr., Mrs., Ms., Dr., Jr., and Sr.; everything else should be written out. Only use first-name initials if you are unsure of the full name.
  • Each subsequent line of the address should preferably be further indented, though an address in block form (justified left) is also correct.
  • Only the title(s) and surname, such as “Dr. and Mrs. Pinto” are printed, centered, on the inside envelope.


Outside Envelope
Outside Envelope
Inside Envelope
Married couple
Mr. and Mrs. Howard Silver
Mr. and Mrs. Silver
Married couple
with young children
Mr. and Mrs. Howard Silver
Mr. and Mrs. Silver
Joshua and Emma


Family Members over 18
Two sisters   
Misses Jennifer and Ashley Geld
The Misses Geld
Two brothers 
Messrs. Jordon and Keith Geld
The Messrs. Geld
A brother and sister
Mr. Keith and Ashley Geld
Mr. and Miss Geld
Couples
Miss Sabrina Bell and
Mr. David Kohn
Miss Sabrina Bell and
Mr. David Kohn
Married Woman
using maiden name
Mr. Stephen Braun and
Ms. Lea Michaels
Mr. Braun and Ms. Michaels
A widow
Mrs. Jacob Winter
Mrs. Winter
A divorcée
Ms. (or Mrs.) Debra Mann
Ms. (or Mrs.) Mann
Two doctors
Drs. Abraham and Myriam Stein
The Doctors Stein





The names of both families appear as sponsors of the wedding, with the bride’s parents generally listed first, whether at the beginning or end of the invitation.




In addition to the actual invitation and the outside envelope, other printed pieces you might need include: 

  • Response card and stamped envelope
  • Inside envelope
  • Information about the aufruf  (a celebration on the Sabbath before the wedding at which the groom is called to the Torah) may be printed on a separate card or on the back of the invitation
  • Map to venue, if necessary
  • Travel and accommodations information, if applicable
  • Thank you cards (informals)
  • Place cards